Your relationship is cooling off. You and your spouse have drifted away from each other. Now your afraid you’ll need to stop a divorce--FAST! If this describes your relationship, your marriage may lack the pleasure that comes from creativity.
Lack of creativity creates disharmony and lack of respect in a relationship. A less then fulfilling marriage can often be caused by one partner being overly dependant or taking the other for granted.
Over dependence can damage on couple. total independence isn’t a good thing ether. When one partner is completely focused on their own independence, you won’t truly be a couple. Whether you or your spouse are overly dependant, or independent, the marriage is being strained. And one morning you wake up and realize “I have to stop my divorce…and fast.“
The answer is Interdependence. Take time for each other, and see things together. Go online and learn about interesting places in your area. Visit the areas the two of you haven’t been. Go exploring together--treasure hunts at flea markets, antique shops or garage sales can be fun. These are also good places to pick up inexpensive gifts for your spouse to later on.
As silly as it sounds, think about one or two of these… Get his and her t-shirts, coffee cups, luggage, or easy chairs. Anything that reminds the two of you that you’re a team. One couple e-mailed me and said they now make his and her jack-o-lanterns every Halloween.
Go to a bookstore or the library together and have your partner select a book for you that he knows you’ll enjoy. Do the same for him. Go to a CD store and do the same. Think up other ways to apply this idea. Yes, it’s a little corny; but it’s very helpful.
At the start of each month get together with your partner and look at each other’s schedules. Plan at least two or three dates where you’ll do an activity together. Make your relationship at least as important as any other obligation you might have made. You will develop a relationship that will be the envy of other couples. Also, you’ll stop a divorce fast!
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About the Author
Lisa Dosett is a counselor and relationship coach. She has helped hundreds of individuals and couples through her newsletters and website RELATIONSHIP 911
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